Coercive Control
Coercive control is a pattern of behaviour characterised by psychological, emotional, physical, sexual, and/or financial manipulation, abuse, and control. This type of behaviour is used by an individual to assert power and control over another person in an intimate relationship. It is a form of domestic violence and can include acts such as monitoring an individual's activities and movements, isolating them from their support network, controlling their finances, and using threats or violence to intimidate and control them.
Coercive control is a gradual process that can start with small acts of control and escalate over time, making it difficult for the victim to recognise and escape the abuse. It is a serious form of abuse that can have long-lasting psychological and physical effects on the victim. The behaviour can be obvious or subtle, making it difficult for others to recognise.
Coercive control can have serious and long-lasting effects on an individual's mental and physical health, as well as their overall quality of life. It can lead to feelings of shame, guilt, anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem. Additionally, individuals who experience coercive control are at a higher risk of developing chronic physical health conditions and may also struggle with substance abuse as a means of coping with the abuse.
Coercive control works to eliminate an individual’s sense of autonomy and freedom. It can often start slowly and subtly where the individual does not realise they are being abused. They may believe their partner is jealous, insecure, overprotective, or even romantic or caring. Coercive control can include:
• Threatening to harm an individual or their children
• Threatening to expose information relating to an individual to authorities or on social media
• Damaging an individual’s property or belongings
• Manipulating an individual through use of put down comments and creating their sense of worthlessness
• Isolating an individual from their support network
• Controlling how much money an individual has or how they spend it
• Monitoring an individual’s activities and movements
• Gaslighting – making someone doubt their experience by creating a sense that they are irrational or unstable, or telling them one story and then telling others a very different one
• Sexual violence – using threats if an individual does not consent to having sex
It's important for individuals who are experiencing coercive control to know that they are not alone and that there is help available. They can reach out to local domestic violence hotlines, law enforcement, or a trusted friend or family member for support. It's also important for friends, family members, and community members to educate themselves about the warning signs of coercive control and to be supportive of individuals who may be experiencing abuse.
Coercive control is a serious issue that affects individuals of all genders and can have long-lasting effects on an individual's mental and physical health. It's essential for individuals who are experiencing abuse to reach out for help and for friends, family members, and community members to be educated and supportive.
If you or someone you know may need support with this please contact us on 8838-8687 or book an appointment online to come see one of our friendly Psychologists.